Hi again everyone.

I'm just really curious on how other people have come out to parents/family/friends about thinking you are the wrong gender?

I'm starting to really badly want to do it but being quite shy and bottling up my emotions pretty much my whole life im finding it hard to build up the courage to do it.

Hi

I told my parents with a letter coz I kept bottling it! I just handed it over to my mum and let her read it. My mum then told my Dad and Sister for me

Some of my friends I told by email others I told face to face. One friend I told by text message!

Any way you want to tell them is ok I think

Hope that helps

i left my mum a letter on top of the fire place then rushed out to work before they saw it lol. they thought it was a note to say i was moving out they never expected it would be a letter saying that i have GID.

I've yet to tell my brother but that will proberly be face to face, he's dyslexic(sp?) so would have trouble reading. i just dont like useing the word transexual so im trying to find a way of telling him that he would be able to get his head around. He'll prolly suprise me and know exactly what im talking about though lol.
My friends i'm proberly going to be really cowardly with and email them once ive moved away lol.
I have a real problem trying to explain myself and how i feel to people face to face, it's something i really need to work at.

Jess

My approach has been to tell one or two people at a time and then let things settle for a bit before telling anyone else. It takes a lot of planning though!

With all the questions and comments (some nasty) ive received i don't think I could have handled coming out en-mass, so this seems to be working for me.

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Most of the time, most people do what most people do most of the time.

It must be terribly hard for you all to come out to parants and friends

all i can say is that my son came out to me on tuesday by putting up web page gires on my lappy
he is still my child and i will love him/her just the same as long as hes happy
i would rather have a living happy child then a dead one

your parents will prob know there is something bothering you and that your unhappy and all sorts will be going thro their head so just be honest with them

and as for friends if they are true friends they will accept you for the person you are if not their not true friends

I feel the same way I don't think I would be able to come out and tell everyone especially my parents/family. My parents and my family are very judge mental and up tight people and would honestly reject me and thats what I'm scared of.

Everyone has their own way to come out and over time you will find the method that suits you best. There are however some basic rules.

1) Only tell if there are positive benefits in doing so.
2) Only tell if you feel comfortable in doing so.
3) Don't tell people you do not have much need to tell.

You could try this coming out online first, I know that's what I did. I tested the water by telling an online friend I had known for years. Or you could just try telling new people over MSN. If they don't take it well then you can just block them. If they take it well you might have found yourself a friend. Either way there are bound to be questions and the more you practise answering them the more you will be prepared to tell family members and old real-life (RL) friends who are likely to be much more taken-aback, shocked and concerned than the people you know online.

Remember: You will lose some friends and family members. But it is better to lose people who do not accept you and be happy than pleasing others who are not worth it and remaining uphappy yourself. Someone is bound to get hurt no matter what you do. It is a catch 20-20 situation. Just make sure that you do not get hurt yourself. Be happy and be yourself. You deserve that much.

Just Wondered did anyone give there friends or family some information when they told them. When i told my mum she was already pretty aware of what it ment, but i know my friends really don't have much of an idea about what TS is.
I'd like to give them at least one link to a website that would explain about it a try to get rid of there misconceptions. can anyone recommend a website thats not to indepth but has a good explantion.

Ta Jess

Perhaps this video?

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I look back at most of my life and think "WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING?!??"

Very good easy-to-follow video:
http://www.videojug.com/interview/transgender-what-does-it-mean

My favourite info transsites:
http://www.genderpsychology.org/
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/

Transsexual Open Letter:
http://home.freeuk.com/mermaids/letter.html

Thanxs for all the replies the links will be really handy especially the Video's. I guess I've been lucky with my mum since she's in a gay releationship and that she's watched documentries on tv about thinks like this. Im hoping that since my friends are pretty good with my parents that they should be open minded about me when i tell him. I just know from past conversations that anything they know about TS comes from the sun >.<
thats harsh Scaeme was it a slip of the tongue or her being vindictive? I often thought it was be easyier if people found out from else where but i dont think it would go down so well at least i get a change to explain my self.
I'm thinking about telling my friend, She's gone to the states for 6 months so i dont have to see her face to face for a while. by the time she does get home i would have moved away so if it turns out bad i wont have to see her lol

Jess

I wont go into the story here D&C. It's not good for morale
All I'll say here is, yes, it was vindicitive, over a year later she hasnt apoligised (and that's all I'd expect too) so she's not forgiven. Sarah was a particulay bitter and venomous individual though and I wouldnt expect it from most people's family members at all.

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I look back at most of my life and think "WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING?!??"