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Hmm not to sure this a good idea now tho :S ahh i dont know just so depressed lately, worried about what im going to say to fam etc and how people will take it.

Dont think i can do it

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I Juss Wanna Be The Real Me - Key To My Happiness

you don't have to tell them you're going to this appointment.

tell them when you feel up to it.

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Of course it is only natural to worry about other people and how they will react. Even if people have a hard time understanding in the beginning most decent and caring people will understand and be glad to see a happier you.

I think that you also have to think about yourself sometimes and I know it's hard to find the confidence to make a big change in your life when you feel so depressed. If this is going to make you feel a much happier and confident person which most trans people say transitioning does for them then sometimes even if it's hard you need to push yourself to get some help.

I personally think the first steps are the hardest to take and everything can seem so daunting, I think it's easier to just try and take one step at a time and focus on that. Every long journey starts with a single step as they say.

Remember that you don't have to take the journey alone. It's your own personal journey but there is help out there in the form of support groups, support sites, councellors etc. I've found the collective information, kindness and support particularly from the wonderful people here on tzone has helped me imensely.

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I know it must seem daunting, thinking of all the people that you'll have to tell and what their reactions might be. However, speaking from personal experience, I have had an overwhelmingly positive response from everyone I know.

Don't feel you have to tell everyone at once. I only told my family once I was getting close to starting T, between my first and second appointments. Some friends knew early on, but I only told many others much later on, once I was ready to tell them. It gets easier, trust me!

I've also coem to realise that if anyone is going to reject me for being trans, that's their problem not mine - and they were never really a true friend in the first place.

Dave

It does all make sense what you are all saying but , ive always been a private person you know, with everything and I feel people shouldnt know my business unless I decide to tell them.

Evene if I do go through all the journey and surgery I dont know If I would be happy, like I just want to be able to live a normal life and I dont want everywhere I go or people I meet to be looking at me as to they use to be a woman bla bla.

I feel with the age that Im at and the younger generation to them it may see sometign funny or a joke or gossip 2 spread, i dont want everyone 2 know other than the pople i choose to tell, family, maybe work ppl thats it.

Ahh f**k it ive had enough of this stupid life.

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I see where you're coming from mate, and it's something a lot of us go through. Obviously, when you start to transition, those around you will know what's going on. However, once you pass fully there's no reason why you can't move to a completely new area and start a new life. With a Gender Recognition Certificate you can get your birth certificate reissued, so no one need ever know of your past if you don't want them to.

Dave