I've started a new college a couple of weeks ago and made a load of new friends. But at they have all started noticing that i'm more femanin (sorry about the spelling) Than most of them and one of them asked me if i was a female trapped in a male body...(which is whats going on with me) But i've not told anyone apart from my girlfriend and im not sure what to do cos i'm not sure about telling them before my family, Any advice?
P.s I've still not plucked up the currage to go to the dox

_________________
I'm the music T.V
Let a smile be your unbrella
A locked heart is one scared of love
Ps. Sorry if there's spelling mistakes... it's not my strong point
My Site: http://pic5.piczo.com/dreamhopelove/?g=1

I'd be inclined to go with the flow and do nothing sudden. Don't acknowledge or deny anything just yet. Three weeks is not long enough to establish a friendship of any solidity.

I told my girlfriend first. Then a few trusted friends. Then I went to the doctor's.

I suggest that you write to the doctor first explaining what is troubling you. Then go and see him. That way the ice is already broken before you get there. This ploy has worked for many of us, myself included.

_________________
The Daily Turnout - King of the Throne Room

I guess it depends on what the people are like. I've only just started T, so haven't had any effects yet. However, I do live full-time as male - and have a male name - so I obviously tell people straight away. Earlier on, I didn't tell people until I was sure I was ready to - and then the first people I told were my partner and my close friends.

As Reenie says, a couple of weeks isn't really long enough to have built up a solid friendship with someone. This could work in one of 2 ways - telling them when they ask will show you whether they're worth being friends with, especially if you're planning to start transitioning while you're still at college. Alternatively, it could scare off potential friends before they've had a chance to get to know you properly - and the people you tell might spread it round everyone in college. If you do choose to tell them, you need to be prepared for all the possible consequences, including it getting back to your family.

Personally, in your situation, I don't think I'd tell them. However, I'd try and avoid lying too, so I guess I'd dodge the question - maybe make a joke of it or something?

Dave

I had a few similar experiences prior to going full-time. If you not ready to tell people then don't.

You can always pass it off in a lighthearted manner.......if they ask you a similar question just say "only at the weekends!" and smile mysteriously! It worked for me!!

_________________
Cheeky Cat!

once a lad i was in a band with asked me when i was getting my sex-change and a particularly girly guy i used to sit next to at college asked me if i wanted to swap bodies.

okay so those are piss takes that i just laughed off but it depends whether or not they are being dead serious or just larking around really.

i myself having not gone full time yet would deny it with people who have known me for such a short time. if you are not ready to go full time then its probably not a good idea to trust them not to spread it around.

_________________
"...risk something, take back whats yours, say something that you know they might attack you for..."

^^ he didnt mean it that way. he was just a young lad having a laugh. there wasnt a hint if seriousness in the way he sed it.

_________________
"...risk something, take back whats yours, say something that you know they might attack you for..."

A work place I went to, (long before I transtioned) and there was a guy there that bet his whole months wages to say that I was a bloke....I loved seeing his face when I said no....

Then years later to see his face again when I DID transtion. I told him that if he had waited he would have won...He does not speak to me that often..do I care like hell I do.

_________________
" Too many years fighting the tears, Why can't the past just die. Try to for give, teach me to live, give me the strength to try. No more memories, no more silent tears, no more gazing across the wasted years, help me to say. Goodbye"
From Phantom Of The Opera

Fishkeeper is Admin staff for FTM's.
My Bio. http://www.transgenderzone.com/bio.htm
we have a library
http://www.transgenderzone.com/library

feel free to browse

The most dificult step is the initial 'talk' explaining to friends and/or family what is going on inside you. Its tought he first few times, but after a while it becomes totally natural.

You will find that peple have a lot of questions and the more open you are, the more they will respect you for it. People often have misconceptions about transgendered people and you may find you need to explain a few essentials as many people cannot tear gender and sexuality apart for starters.

Sometimes it can take a lot of patience, but you will find that the negative attitudes that may initially be present will likely dissolve very quickly the more they understand about you as a person. Most times that I have spoken to people about myself they have been very enthusiastic and wanted to know more and more, even offering their services in various things such as clothes and makeup etc lol, it can be quite fun.

As has been previously mentioned, dont force anything, you will know when you feel sure ennough in yoursel to approach your doc. The more friends you have to support you, the more confident you will feel so I would suggest you speak with them about it before you take it further.

Best of luck, be yourself and they'll love you for it

JJ x

_________________
Definitely From Another World