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Hi i have not been around for a while, had loads going on.

I started a new job in July as a support worker for adults with mental health issues. At the interview i told my employer about my transition as although i had changed my name i wasn't passing all the time and i didn't want it to be an issue. My employer was fine and was not fased at all. I have just had my first supervision and we discussed my transition and what we were going to do with reguards telling the service users as they were still seeing me as a woman. As we discussed the subject my team leader gave me the impression that due to the service users needs and illnesses that it would be awkward to explain to them about me and could i take it if they started calling me names. My reply to this was with support from staff and management this could be overcome. I quote my team leader " loosing a couple of friends over this is one thing but would i be willing to loose my job ". Well i was too shocked to respond i now feel that i am in an impossible situation and not sure what to do. I was up front and honest from the beginning due to the nature of the job and i enjoy the job.

can anyone help with this
Thanks chad

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I think what your team leader has said is wrong and such an awful thing to say. In what context did your team leader say "loosing a couple of friends over this is one thing but would i be willing to loose my job"? Were they warning or even threatening you not to carry on with your transition otherwise you'd be risking your job? It sounds awfully like that to me.

You've said that you changed your name prior to starting and told your employer about your transition, so you have started the job as male. Legally they can't sack you for transitioning at work.

bochad wrote: I have just had my first supervision and we discussed my transition and what we were going to do with reguards telling the service users as they were still seeing me as a woman. As we discussed the subject my team leader gave me the impression that due to the service users needs and illnesses that it would be awkward to explain to them about me and could i take it if they started calling me names.

Sounds to me like they are scared to do the right thing. You're in this job as a guy and I know it must be a little awkward if you're not passing all the time just yet but these service users need to know that you're a guy. I don't know how your job is but were you introduced as a guy to the service users when you started?

Do the service users need to know you're transitioning, can they just be told you're a guy regardless if you pass fully or not just yet?

I'm not sure on the best course of action, I guess it depends on what happens next. I'm also not fully acquainted with all the relevant laws on discrimination but I know that this is certainly wrong, they can't discriminate against you because of your gender.

Hello to everyone,

Fairly new to this board so a big hello to all you tgirls and hope you are having a good time.

I am a fully transitioned post transexual and during my transitioned i found it extremely helpful to make a big effort to train and feminize my voice, but i started with speech therapy and was advised by someone to get a voice feminization program which i have now placed on my own website Web link removed for other girls to have a look at. It is a definite recommendation on my part as it really worked for me and helped me in the workplace, as i was a telephone customer services agent.

Hope this helps and look forward to posting again soon.

Lots of Luv
Ms Val Marks

transvestitecl wrote:Hello to everyone,

Fairly new to this board so a big hello to all you tgirls and hope you are having a good time.

I am a fully transitioned post transexual and during my transitioned i found it extremely helpful to make a big effort to train and feminize my voice, but i started with speech therapy and was advised by someone to get a voice feminization program which i have now placed on my own website Web link removed for other girls to have a look at. It is a definite recommendation on my part as it really worked for me and helped me in the workplace, as i was a telephone customer services agent.

Hope this helps and look forward to posting again soon.

Lots of Luv
Ms Val Marks

Um, you've posted this in the FtM section and also sounds awfully like you've just joined to advertise your website. We don't allow advertising on this forum.

I doubt the person is even genuine. It's blatant spam.

the user name if you google it gives you a website... how starnge...
want to buy???

not me..
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